What happens at the gym, doesn’t always stay at the gym. One woman’s gym confession has recently sparked a viral debate testing loyalty, love, and… girl code?
“Normalize being a people’s person,” the woman shares.
Posted just recently, gym connoisseur Dakota Peters (@kodapeters) turned to TikTok to share her eye-opening encounter. Taking a front row seat, Peters’ clip has gained traction, receiving 1 million views and more than 91,200 likes. And what started as a casual gym observation escalated quickly into viral discourse about trust and accountability.
Peters sits in the driver’s seat of her car and begins to tell all.
Gym cheating
“Don’t let your partner go to the gym consistently without you,” Peters begins. “Or without showing your face there.”
Sipping on her almost finished Starbucks coffee, Peters stares in astonishment.
“I just went to the coffee shop, and I saw a girl who I see at the gym almost every day with what I thought was her boyfriend,” Peters says.
Peters explains that whenever she goes to her local gym, she often sees this woman. However, according to Peters, the woman is rarely alone. Rather she is accompanied by a man, whom from judging their body-language, she believed to be her significant other.
“I mean, this girl, for 40+ minutes every day, will sit on a bench next to this guy while he’s, you know, doing his little thing and chews his ear off,” Peters says.
Allegedly the woman sits next to the man and continually chats with him as he goes through his workout. Though Peters never took much notice, until she saw her at a coffee shop shortly after, sitting with someone entirely different.
“I just saw her with her actual boyfriend at the coffee shop,” Peters says.
Peters takes a final large swig of her Starbucks coffee.
“I was like, girl, ‘I’m gonna tell on you,’” Peters concludes.
Holding the camera close to her face, Peters concludes her video starting directly at her phone, leaving her message loud and clear without saying another word.
‘Normalize telling on cheaters’
Warning her viewers that you never know what your partner may be up to, Peters’ video caused an uproar she may not have expected. With hundreds weighing in, Peters’ comment section mimicked that of a digital town hall.
“Normalize telling on cheaters,” many believed.
“We don’t tell on women, babe,” others argued.
To this comment Peters responded, claiming that only those who cheat follow this mindset, asserting her belief that accountability should always come first. Many, however, stated that while Peters is correct, at the end of the day, people who cheat will always find a way.
“‘Don’t let your partner…’ cheaters will cheat. Do not [make] an excuse to control your partner,” one commenter said.
To this Peters also responded.
“Valid. I do agree with you. However after being a witness to this situation I’m def. inclined to have others just be more aware of what the gym spaces have become for some,” Peters says.
Even other members of the workout community used the platform to share their own personal testimonies regarding the subject. And unfortunately, it may be more common than some think.
“[I] used to work at the gym and me and my coworkers would tell women when their bfs would bring in other girls/flirt with other girls… A job is temporary but morals are forever,” a commenter stated.
With such back and forth discourse, from viewers telling Peters to simply mind her business to others pushing her to speak out, it raises the question: Where do we draw the line?
Is Peters correct?
While it’s virtually impossible to find scientific evidence backing whether interfering in these types of situations is acceptable, it ultimately comes down to personal beliefs.
Around 20-25% of couples experience infidelity at some point in relationships. The formula boils down to the choice of self-gratification over intimacy from one party in the partnership. Caught or not, it often leads to an overall breakdown of both trust and emotional connection between all involved.
Studies suggest that 20% of married men admit to cheating, whereas only 13% of married women confess a lack of faithfulness.
So whether it’s “correct” to tell another person they’re being cheated on can depend on a series of different factors. Eventually it all depends on your relationship with the parties involved and simply, your personal values.
Regardless of the potential outcomes or your personal stance on the issue, it’s crucial to approach the subject with empathy, understanding, and respect for everyone involved.
The Daily Dot reached out to Dakota Peters (@kodapeters) via TikTok direct message for comment.
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